My Non Traditional Wedding Plans

Yes yes issa wedding post! But not in the way that you may think. As I stated in a previous blog post, I was not the girl that dreamed of her wedding at a young age and it was not until recently that I began to. Even when I began to think about it as an adult I wasn't sold on the idea of having a large party with dancing and talking. NOW that is definitely because I'm an introvert lol And another big reason that I haven't been sold on the idea of a traditional wedding is because it costs so much money! Statistics show that weddings in the US cost between $20,000 and $60,000. Who has that kind of money with student loans, honeymoon costs and buying a house or apartment to live in after the wedding is over? I know I won't! So for those two reasons I've been thinking about a different approach for my wedding.

I follow many millennial Christian couples on social media both married and courting and I have researched some of their wedding stories. Many couples have and are choosing not to go forth with traditional weddings meaning weddings being held in churches, weddings with wedding parties (bridesmaids and groomsmen), weddings with sit down receptions and weddings with large amounts of people present. Some millennial couples are choosing not to have weddings at all and to save the money they would have spent on a wedding and use it for their honeymoon or first house.

So this got me thinking as to what my reasons would be to have a large wedding with a reception? Am I following traditions? Am I wanting to please other people? Am I trying to impress other people? All of these reasons have nothing to do with my future husband and our actual marriage that will take place for decades after my wedding day is over and that's more important.

So I'm not saying I'm going extremely to the left and throwing out all traces of tradition for my wedding, but I am going to make sure that I focus on what I and my husband really wants and what we are comfortable with both personally and financially.

I encourage everyone who has the desire for marriage and couples who are engaged to stay focused on the true meaning of marriage which has less to do with the ceremony. There is a biblical meaning behind wedding ceremonies but I believe we have taken the meaning to a very materialistic level! So stay focused on what you really want and if you desire a large wedding then do it but if you do not, then do not feel pressured by other people to do so because your marriage is about you and your spouse.